Ethical Slut': Polyamory, Open Relationships, Non- Monogamy. In 1. 99. 4, sexual educator Janet W. Hardy, was bedridden for a month with a bad flu that had evolved into bronchitis. She was, as she recalls, "high off my ass on Codeine cough syrup" when she caught a showing of Indecent Proposal on TV. Married couple David (Woody Harrelson) and Diana (Demi Moore) are faced with a moral dilemma when a billionaire named John (Robert Redford) offers them a million dollars in exchange for spending one night with Diana.

Hardy, who is now 6. At the scene where the couple hesitates over the billionaire's offer, Hardy wondered if she was having a fever dream."I was sitting there going, 'What's going on here?'" she tells Rolling Stone from her home in Oregon. A million dollars and Robert Redford, and they have a problem with this?

It made no sense to me. I really got it at that point, how distant I had become from mainstream sexual ethics."Hardy reached out to her friend and sometimes collaborator, the psychotherapist Dossie Easton to work on a book about non- monogamy.

The pair had already coauthored two books on kink which were read in BDSM circles, but not much elsewhere. Both Easton and Hardy identified as queer and polyamorous, and Easton wanted to reclaim the word slut. Showtime Full Wheeler Online Free. Watch Brawl In Cell Block 99 Dailymotion. They combined their own experiences with both casual sex and open marriages, navigating orgies and battling jealousy.

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In 1. 99. 7, under Hardy's own indie sex- ed publishing house Greenery Press, they published The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. It would go on to sell 2. The the first usage of the word polyamory is credited to pagan priestess Morning Glory Ravenheart Zell in 1. Though different forms of non- monogamy have presented themselves in various cultures for millennia, in Western culture in the early 1. Today, polyamory is less tied to one specific subculture or identity. In the two decades since the first edition of The Ethical Slut has been published, polyamory has expanded into a practice that, if not outright mainstream, is at least much more widely accepted and understood. According to a 2.

Psychology Today, at least 9. Americans are in some kind of non- monogamous relationship."Twenty years ago, I used to get calls from show producers all the time, and the call would go, 'Can you point me towards a poly family that's not either old hippies or screaming geeks?'" laughs Hardy. I would say no, because A, that's most of my rolodex, and B, that's who was doing poly back then. But these days, when I speak to poly audiences, they're young professionals, all shiny and new. It's very different." Heather is a 3. Toronto, Canada. (Her name has been changed to protect her privacy.) She and her husband started dating when they were 1.

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The. Ethical Slut was published. The two Canadian teenagers didn't yet have the language for what it is they wanted."This was pre- Internet forum, pre- all of that stuff. We really were going by gut," she says. I didn't know the word polyamorous. I didn't know that there were tons of other people that had ethically non- monogamous relationships." The models they saw for longterm relationships, such as their parents or friends' parents, were monogamous, but didn't seem that satisfying.

All that she and her then- boyfriend knew was that they liked each other a lot, and they didn't feel the need to be exclusive."We had a conversation where we both realized, 'I don't care if you flirt with other people,'" she says about the beginning of their relationship. Actually, it's kind of great. I love that side of you." She and her boyfriend were both extroverted, social people, and flirting with other people just felt natural. Heather, who identifies as queer, liked that she could continue to explore that side of her sexuality with other women. They moved in together at age 1. Her boyfriend started to date a woman he worked with at a restaurant, and when Heather met her at a holiday party, she realized she was attracted to her, too. The three of them entered a relationship together that lasted just under a year.

The Ethical Slut describes this relationship model as a triad, but at the time neither Heather nor her partners knew that."That was one of our first experiences that wasn't a casual or one- time thing," she says. The three of us were pretty sure we were inventing the wheel." Eventually, Heather says, the culture that surrounded her began to catch up. She credits this to living in a progressive city like Toronto, and the Internet's ability to "bring people outside the mainstream together." She finally read The Ethical Slut at age 3. Like Heather, both Hardy and Easton had to figure out their own ideal relationship models as they went along. Easton, who is 7. I was never going to be monogamous again," she says. The idea of a communal lifestyle appealed to her, so she took her newborn daughter and found a home in a queer community in San Francisco.

She joined a group called San Francisco Sex Organization and taught her first class on unlearning jealousy in 1. Hardy, 6. 2, was married for 1.

Her marriage ended that same year. A few years later, in 1. Easton through a BDSM group in San Francisco called the Society of Janus. Easton was teaching a class called "Pain Play with Canes from Psyche to Soma" and Hardy volunteered to help her demonstrate. Two years later, the pair gave a presentation on S& M in Big Sur at a Mensa gathering.

Of all things," says Hardy.)"Dossie went home because it was so hetero, she couldn't stand it," says Hardy. Later, she ran into another friend who relayed an overheard conversation from the conference. She said, 'Did you hear about that S& M workshop this afternoon?

There were these two women, they were talking about stuff they had done together, and one of their boyfriends was right in the room!'" Kink was no big deal to the Mensa crowd, but non- monogamy could still shock in 1. Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, authors of 'The Ethical Slut.'Stephanie Mohan. Amber – whose name has also been changed – was born around the same time as that Mensa gathering, and today works at social justice non- profit in Brooklyn. At 2. 3, she is barely older than the first edition of The Ethical Slut. Her vocabulary is comfortably peppered with terms that took Hardy, Easton and Heather years to start using. She prefers the term "polyamory" to "open relationship" because the latter implies a hierarchy to the people she dates, and she doesn't have a primary partner.

Friends she has sex with but doesn't date she calls "paramours," while "metamours" are friends that she has a romantic partner in common with. I'm really lucky where most of my metamours and I get along," she says. I learned a lesson recently where you're not always going to like your metamour, and that's OK." Liking your metamour can lead to "compersion," which The Ethical Slut describes as "the feeling of joy that comes from seeing your partner sexually happy with someone else."Her sibling, who is 1. Amber is out to her parents. The way I told them, was I said, 'Yeah, I'm dating this person, and this person, and this person," she tells me. I explained this to my mom, and her first concern was, 'Well, what if you say the wrong name during sex?'" Though Amber has only been identifying as polyamorous for a few years – she was 1. She emphasizes the need for communication in all relationships, particularly when it comes to hurt feelings."I'm sure you're waiting to ask me the big jealousy question," she tells me.

Of course polyamorous people deal with jealousy, it's just that we see it as an emotion to be acknowledged and talked about and work through." Jealousy usually comes from insecurity and fear, she says, summarizing a large portion of The Ethical Slut, and can require "self reflection and metacognition" to work through. She is active in the New York poly, kink and queer scenes, and goes to several events a week including BDSM play parties and swingers mixers.